Rob is gone and we've both reluctantly returned to the daily grind of our normal lives. (We jointly decided to retire the name "Captain Tenderheart," by the way, as it was originally invented out of the necessity to be secretive which, thankfully, no longer applies.) We had an incredible twelve days together: a three-day trip to Tokyo which, despite two days of rain and my numerous navigational errors, was a lot of fun; an ill-advised viewing of the truly bad Tokyo Drift; a long bike ride and picnic; Rob's first foray into the very naked world of the onsen; a visit to the Nagoya Aquarium; and, most importantly, lots of lazing around and watching DVDs. We got to be a real couple for awhile, instead of two people who live 5,000 miles apart and see each other on a computer screen for an hour once a week. It was nice.
But now of course there is the fresh emptiness of my apartment, the quiet, the half of the couch where he should be sitting and isn't.
Nine months suddenly feels like a very long time indeed.
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I completely feel for you. Darin and I had an LDR for a year and then another year. It was hard, but you'll be back together before you know it. Maybe you could drown your sorrow in some Japanese candy :)
Posted by kat | October 5, 2006 12:45 PM
Hang in there! We've been apart twice, both times because of the Army. Keep up a good routine, that helped me a lot. So glad you two had time together and had a good time. Thank goodness for the internet!
Posted by madmommy | October 5, 2006 1:55 PM
relationships are tough whether long distance or not but not being able to see each other is what can really make people nuts :) it's good that you have the internet and communication is much easier now. you can almost feel like "you're there", you know? imagine trying to do the long distance thing 5 or 10 years ago! talk about tough. so hang in there! 9 months will fly by before you know it.
Posted by gleek | October 5, 2006 10:19 PM
When we were engaged, my husband returned to Japan, I was in the US. That was 11 years ago. No internet. I know how very hard it is to be apart. Now, I have been in Japan 10+ years and miss my parents in the US. Enjoy your time in Japan. Nine months is a short-time. And enjoy the anticipation of seeing each other again.
Posted by Tokyo-Mama | October 6, 2006 12:12 AM
Hey, you'll make it! I know, when I just read about the nine months, I thought "Oh gosh!" but yeah, they'll fly by! The important thing is that you spent some great time together now, I think...a friend of mine had a LDR for 4 years (they now live together, thankfully), and while they saw each other every other weekend, those were usually not so good...
so just think - once you're back after those months, you're back for good! :)
Posted by Barbara | October 6, 2006 7:31 AM
you've already been there for FIFTEEN months. nine months is cake. plus you're coming back for winter right? (i hope so because then i get to see you!)
let's chat for sure this weekend. i can practice my meager japanese skills on you (though i've learned the entire hiragana alphabet, they haven't taught us much vocab) aren't you proud my dear しまい！ (wait...is that right?)
Posted by sonya | October 6, 2006 7:57 AM
Don't worry..you both will be fine. Me and my husband..we both spent a lot of time apart..He spent 2 years in Malaysia and 6 Months in London..I am still at the same place Texas..Now we are married..We are really happy and our relationship very very strong..So enjoy each other very much when you are together...
Posted by Orawin | October 19, 2006 8:49 AM